Hi PE, my sincere sympathy for what you're dealing with, and especially for having salt rubbed in the wound by JW's talking to you as if you are of no consequence.
As others have said, your problem - and solution - is with your wife.
I'd say absolutely nothing more to any active JW's regarding the matter.
JW's are anti-anyone & everyone who's not one of them. I wish you a quick and inexpensive conclusion to the situation.
All the best tomorrow!